Text Box: Thursday, June 18, 2009
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There are no longer any hard and fast rules as to who pays for what. Unlike a decade ago, the lines are no longer so rigidly drawn. The burden of paying for the wedding has shifted in recent years from the shoulders of the father of the bride, to include the groom's family.  Also, with many couples marrying later and having money of their own, they are sharing in the expenses.

Working out a budget for your wedding is one of the first things that should be done once the date is set. You consider all of the following: 
Will the ceremony be formal, semiformal or informal?  A formal wedding, of course, will be the most expensive and the informal, the least. Nothing is set in concrete.  

Tipping has always been a personal expression of gratitude for service given and appreciated. The question of tipping those persons responsible for assisting you in your wedding planning is one of obvious importance and concern.
Gratuities are almost always added into the final bill, whether you have hired a private catering company or are using one of the finest hotel facilities.  The question has been asked, "Is it proper to tip the servers, when I have already paid a gratuity in my contracted price?"  The answer is, of course,  "tipping has always been a personal expression of gratitude for service given and appreciated."  For instance, if a particular server has spent his evening providing you service, over and above your expectations, and you choose to give that individual a "tip," that choice is entirely up to you. It should be given for extra special services only. It is not required, as the gratuity has, as noted, already been paid.  The customary amount would be up to 15%.
Others falling into the above category, include catering managers, hotel banquet managers, waiters, waitresses, bartenders and bridal consultants. Tipping a hostess or captain would fall in the 1% to 2% range. Remember, this has already been added to your final bill and additional tipping is just that. Additional tipping!

Coat Room Attendants: 
It is customary to give fifty cents per guest. However, it may be to your advantage to arrange for a flat fee prior to the event. 

Limousine Driver: 
A tip of 15% is the appropriate amount to be given to your limo driver.  Be sure to read your contract, as the tip has often already been added into the final bill.

Florists, Photographers, Bakers, Musicians: 
Tipping only for extra special services, up to 15%.

Civil Ceremony Officials: (Judge, Justice of the Peace, City Clerk) 
In years gone by, it was considered improper to "ask" a set fee for services rendered. However, today, you may find a "suggested" donation for those in public service. In a recent survey, it was found the average gratuity was between $50 and $75.  If travel is involved, an additional gratuity is expected.

Clergymen, Rabbis, Priests: 
No less than a $75 donation is considered proper and it is rare to find anyone giving less than a $100 gratuity for the wedding officiate.   This donation should be given to the best man prior to the ceremony. Following the proceedings, he will then give it to the officiate. If travel is involved, an additional gratuity is appreciated.

Organist and Musician: 
Fees for church organists and musicians are often included in the rental fee for the church.  When this is not the case, a gratuity of no less than $35 is appropriate, but in a recent survey, the average was $50 for each person. When the organist and musician (soloist) are close friends of the couple or family, the gratuity averaged $75.

The Wedding Dance:
Dancing at your reception is a lovely way to bring an air of elegance and family togetherness.  Traditionally, the bride and groom will be the first to dance as their special song is played softly. Lights dimmed low create a romantic atmosphere.
As the music continues to play, the father of the bride will cut in on the groom and dance with his daughter. The groom asks the bride's mother to join him in a dance and together they grace the dance floor.
The groom's father then cuts in on the bride's father and dances with the bride himself. The bride's father will then cut in on the groom and dance with his wife.
The groom will then ask his mother to dance. Following this, the parents exchange dances with the other couple.
The best man then comes out to ask the bride to dance and the groom will dance with the maid or matron of honor. Finally, the entire wedding party, ushers and bridesmaids join in the festivities. Once the entire bridal party and their parents are on the dance floor, the other guests are invited to dance.
The "money dance" originated as a custom in Poland, and is a popular tradition found celebrated in the weddings of today. It takes place sometime after the first dance and is usually announced by the DJ. It is customary for the best man to begin dancing with the bride, pinning money onto her gown or putting it into a satin bag carried by the bride, especially for the money dance.  A newer rendition of this money dance includes bridesmaids and other ladies dancing with the groom, pinning money on his lapel.

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E-mail: info@eventcreationsusa.com
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